Dissapointed, Frustrated & Furious
It’s 1:00am and I sit here in the dark with tears streaming down my face. Disappointed, Frustrated, Furious and Saddened by my Mother and her inability to comprehend that my youngest daughters Graduation party is supposed to be a celebration of her achievements and her parents for successfully completing raising her to “adulthood” and her release into a future full of promise. She will be entering a top notch college in the fall that she earned scholarships for. She is an incredible young lady who is cute, charming, intelligent and funny and she is someone that I am so proud to call my own even with all her faults and frailties.
My daughter’s father lives in another state. He is traveling to where we are in order to attend her graduation and celebrate our achievements. He will only be here a certain amount of time and we wanted to have her graduation party at a time where he will also be present. Unfortunately, where I live is an unsuitable place for her party because I just don’t have the space for it. Mom had agreed to host it but is now giving me a hard time about when it is occurring because my sister and aunt are coming in the following month from 2 other states. She wants me to wait until they arrive to do my daughters party. This would eliminate her father’s ability to be there.
Mom feels she shouldn’t have to accommodate my ex-husband and have the party when he is here. The fact that he is my ex has nothing to do with it. He may be my ex-husband but the most important part of this is that he is my daughter’s father. Him being my ex doesn’t negate the fact this celebration is one of our daughters success. As much as I would love to have the entire family there, this celebration is not for them. It is for my daughter, her father and myself.
My view is that we can get together again after they all arrive and have a “family reunion”. Is it really so bad to have 2 or more family gatherings during the time my sister & aunt will be in town? Let my daughter, her father and I have our day of celebration too without the hassles and stress.
Ultimately, it has been decided between My daughter, her father and I that we will eliminate the party and do our own private celebration with both my daughters and her father and his girlfriend. My mother can do as she wishes now, I just don’t guarantee that I will participate as I won’t take off from work if I’m scheduled to be there. I will already be losing a few days of work during the graduation week.
Sorry Mom – This isn’t about my sister and aunt. Its about my Daughter, Her Father & I and our celebration. I refuse to take the spotlight off my daughter in order to accommodate you on this one.